by Amy Talton
Vulnerability has become the popular buzzword in our social media-driven society. This word can evoke a sense of panic because we care so deeply about what people think – especially other women. People may misinterpret our intentions and we run the risk of possibly offending another sister. We fear the pain of deep rejection when we still bear the scars endured in our childhood and teen years. We think, if you see the real me and all that I am not, will you still want to be my friend?
Rebekah Lyons so graciously said, “Lead with vulnerability. It may seem intimidating, but we often mistake transparency with vulnerability. Transparency is sharing where you’ve been. Vulnerability is sharing where you are.” I have been guilty of hiding behind the facade of togetherness and a false sense of strength. I don’t want to admit where I am weak or the same silly struggles I can’t seem to shake. There is no “cool girl” club we will be booted from when we admit that we don’t have it all together.
We so easily forget that there is tremendous power and freedom in admitting our weaknesses. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” Vulnerability takes guts and punches the fear of judgment and rejection in the face. You never know the impact you could make on another woman just waiting to hear that she’s not alone in her mess. Nobody measures up to this unspoken standard of perfection and we are all a beautiful work in progress.
We can’t allow our past wounds to keep us chained in isolation and surface level sisterhood (sheepishly raising my hand here). There is nothing as refreshing as hearing the words, “Me too! You can still come and sit at our table.” Don’t let the enemy of your soul deceive you into putting on the mask and hiding behind your walls. Vulnerability is the key that will open the door to real relationships and authenticity.
Choose to show the REAL you with all your flaws because we need you! As sisters, let us lead with vulnerability so that the power of Christ is displayed for all to see.